Some mothers seem to have it all together. They automatically relate well to children and seem to be the grown-up version of the idealistic members of the Baby-sitter’s Club. I am not this mother. I need a little more motivation to learn the necessary skills of playtime. Add to that the suspicion that my 8-year-old son’s “love language” is quality time, and well….it is time for some motherly growth. Hence: Operation Play.
For the month of October I commit to play with my son for a minimum of 20 minutes a day. Why only my son? Because I spend plenty of time with his young sisters while he is at school. Why only one month? Because three weeks makes a habit, and a month is a nice, neat time frame. Why only 20 minutes? Because that is more than I do right now. Here are my rules:
1. Reading does not count unless he requests it, because I already do that naturally and often.
2. I may not multi-task: play and be on the computer, play and watch tv, and most difficult: play and manage his two little sisters.
3. I may not “carry over” playtime. I cannot choose to neglect one day of play and make it up the next day by playing for 30 minutes.
4. I will write about each day’s playtime in this blog.
5. I will commit each day’s playtime to God in prayer, because I believe God to be in charge of the inward things that matter. This project is not about a blog idea, but about what matters: my relationship with my son, my abilities and growth as a mom, and the well-being of my son.
So that’s it! Tomorrow begins the endeavor. I will carry you along with me, being honest about my feelings and experiences . As the 6-fingered man says on the Princess Bride, “Tell me how you feel….and remember this is for posterity so please, be honest.”